Girlfriends
So my email the other day about sisterhoods in packs of four kind of got me thinking about girlfriends. The three other girlfriends in my sisterhood are spread throughout the west coast and sometimes it feels like a piece of myself is missing when I don’t get to experience things with them.
I was watching the news the other day and there was a story about how a group of scientists had done a study on women and their social habits and they had found that one of the main reasons women live longer than men is their relationships with other women. I’m not a scientist so I can’t really explain it but the report said that there was/is something about that social relationship that contributed positively to women’s health. Women who didn’t have close girlfriends lived about as long as men did.
Whereas my email before was more of a look at specific numberings of groups of women (and not altogether serious), this is something that I find to be really interesting. As much as I love my girlfriends sometimes they drive me crazy, and I’m certain I do the same to them. I mean, there have been times when I was simultaneously holding their hair back as they vomited boxes of wine into our previously clean bathroom, and wanting to absolutely kill them for putting me in a position where I was now covered in bile. There have been times when I want nothing more than to just go see a movie with the three of them but can’t because we live 1000 miles away from each other. And there are times when I’m completely in my own life, not a thought about them, but somehow, as ridiculous as this sounds, they’re still with me. They made me who I am and I can’t be anyone else around them because they know me completely.
Maybe that’s the part that really lends itself to healthier lifestyles, when you have a group of people who won’t allow you to be anyone but yourself, you can’t put up defenses or put on tough girl acts. Embarrassingly enough, after watching Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 2, I came to the realization that we’re all out there kind of putting on a tough front (specifically when you have to be in the dating pool). I know my friends and I are constantly pretending like certain boys and certain things don’t have any sort of hold over us when they do. Sure, we might be able to brush certain things off, but sometimes it hurts, and sometimes we pretend it doesn’t. The thing is though, when I’m with my girlfriends, they always know. They know when it really hurts and when it doesn’t. They know when I need to lie to myself and when I need to be slapped in the face with the truth.
The girlfriend dynamic is an interesting one. As Tibby says in the original Traveling Pants movie (I’m paraphrasing), we can fight because we know that we’ll always love each other. That’s really what matters to me. Who cares that we refuse to grow up (we are talking about the girls who sneak booze into the movie theater, take pictures with our asses showing in Las Vegas and who all would rather travel around and visit each other than start working on a career)? We will always, in some ways, be eighteen years old around each other, and in other ways, we’ll always be the older one taking care of the others when we need it. And that’s the beauty of female friendship.
Peace, Love, and People Who Know You Better Than You Know Yourself,
Julia
Fearsome Foursome
I just got back from watching The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants 2 with one of my best girlfriends (yes, she and I and two others have matching tattoos of lips on our left butt cheeks; we’re classy ladies, I know), and I got to thinking about girls and groups of four. What is it about female groups of four friends? Is it that we form foursomes because we so often see them in the media or is it that the media is simply saw these fabulous four-groups of women and saw huge potential?
Who Watches the Watchmen?
I’m back from the best weekend of my life. That may be an exaggeration, but it was freaking awesome. Yes, that’s right, this weekend for the first time I went to Comic-Con International in sunny San Diego California (shout out to my cousin and cousin-in-law who let me crash in their house with the, literally, tons of free crap that I accumulated.
Comic-Con is not for the faint of heart. It is four and a half days of fanboys and fangirls dressed as anything from Storm Troopers to Cling-ons, Sailor Moon characters (I apologize but that is the only anime I know) to The Spirit. It’s a veritable free-for-all of nerds. In other words, it’s my mecca. As Phoebe said in one episode of Friends, ‘It’s like the mother ship is calling you home.’ Of course, she was speaking of Bloomingdales, but I did get a big frakkin bag to take home with me.
Yes, it was a fantastic weekend. But Comic-Con 2008 just happened to be the Comic-Con where the most anticipated comic book movie ever was being promoted. It’s a little movie I like to call Watchmen.
Yes, Watchmen is a movie based on a Comic book. But it’s based on THE comic book. Basically, if any of you came to me and said, Julia, I want to start reading graphic novels because I’ve heard that they aren’t just men in tights battling weird creatures. I would say to you, okay, start with Watchmen and The Dark Knight Returns, both of which were written in 1986 and basically changed the face of comics as we know them. Before these two books comics weren’t taken seriously, but these books went to a darker, more adult place with superheroes. Basically, they went somewhat realistic because really, if superheroes were real things they would be fucked up in the head. I mean, we’re talking about men and women who put themselves above the law and the workings of the law. They dress in costume and fight criminals, sometimes killing them in the process. Batman may never kill the Joker, but there are other bad guys that die along the way at his hands.
Yes, comic-con was a Watchmen-fest. But one other big comic book movie is coming out at the end of this year, and its presence didn’t go unnoticed in the face of the Watchmen-mania. This movie would be The Spirit. Will Eisner, the king of comics (the awards for comics are called the Eisners for a reason), created The Spirit in the 1940s. He’s a grittier and sexier superhero along the lines of The Shadow and the movie is directed by a comic book writer you may have heard of: Frank Miller (he wrote Sin City and The Dark Knight Returns among others).
Yes, it’s a good day for comics and for film. What I realized at Comic-Con while walking through the 135,000 people in attendance: These are the people that dictate popular culture. These are the people that make The Dark Knight the fastest grossing movie of all time (it’s been out for just over a week and has made over $400 Million worldwide), they are the people that make or break t.v. shows, they are the people who dictate what’s cool and what’s not, yet they are the people who get/got picked on in high school, who’d rather spend time in front of their computer than at a bar. It’s quite a spot to be in, both loved and mocked, but no one ever said that being a geek was easy, and would we like our geekiness so much if it were mainstream?
Peace, Love, and Rorschach,
Julia
Psychological Damage
I don’t know if anyone has ever witnessed the actual act of a parent fucking up a child, but it’s pretty disturbing. Yes it’s true, I’m not a parent (nor probably ever will be). I also think that no matter what you come out of childhood with some kind of damage to your psyche, isn’t that the very nature of becoming an adult? Being damaged to some extent. But when you actually witness a parent say something to a really young child that is sure to give them a serious complex, it’s one of the most disturbing, and sadistically fascinating experiences of all time.
Culture War and the City
No matter what you thought of Sex and the City, the T.V. Show or the Movie, there is no question that it was groundbreaking. Finally a show that showed women, real, flawed women. Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte aren’t cliches, though they may be somewhat caricature-like at times.
Pride
The gays are out in L.A. this weekend. That’s right, it’s pride weekend in L.A. and I had front row tickets. Lord knows I can’t miss out on spending the weekend with a bunch of Fabulous men and women.
Women’s Lib: Redux
With the weekend we’re all waiting for bearing down on us (that would be next weekend with the release of Sex and the City), Entertainment Weekly gleefully returned to a favorite topic: the fab four New York ladies we all would love to be (and be friends with). In an interview with Sarah Jessica Parker, talking about getting the movie made, she cites the success of The Devil Wears Prada as a major catalyst in Sex and the City finally being greenlit. She also hopes that the probable success of Sex and The City will open up the market for more films where women actually move beyond the girlfriend, the housewife, the assistant, or the teacher.
The Geek Shall Inherit
I just finished watching Iron Man and I first must brag that I’m 1 for 1 on my movie openings; it was fantastic. But I was thinking about the comic book movie while I was watching the latest incarnation. It dawned on me that comics are in an uphill swing and it’s due to the comic book geeks.
About that Time
It’s about that time again folks, it seems to come earlier every year. No. It’s not Christmas yet. It’s summer movie season! A great time of year when big blockbuster hits, speckled with some little gems hit the theaters just in time for us to cool off in the nice air conditioning of a huge cineplex. And it’s all kicking off this weekend folks. So here are my predictions (a little insider info as well).
Ages of Innocence
I’m sitting here watching Walk The Line for the 3 millionth time and I can’t help but thinking that the fifties aren’t as innocent as we all like to think of them as. And I thought about it a little more and how did the fifties get this rap as a time of innocence? I mean the major portrayals of the fifties in film are American Graffiti and Grease, and they aren’t exactly innocent little romps (lest we forget the ‘hickey from Kenickie’ line). The major movies from the fifties include Rebel Without A Cause, Sunset Boulevard and Vertigo to name just a few. Is it the poodle skirts and saddle shoes? Maybe the clothes give off the air of innocence, but I am loathe to believe that it is just the clothes that have propagated this whole myth of the innocent fifties.
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